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Gina Parker CollinsWe are excited to announce that Gina Parker Collins is Founder & President of RIISE, will join us as a regular blog contributor in the area of diversity.

Gina Parker Collins is Founder & President of RIISE – Resources In Independent School Education, which puts systems in place to protect, retain, and attract families of color at independent schools.

This desire to fully support private school education and the community it serves is derived from being a parent of children attending independent schools and a professional background in thought leadership, diversity and inclusion, and experiential marketing.

Gina’s ability to shape environments that make a personal connection with a targeted audience comes from thirteen years in the publishing and experiential marketing industries. As Director of Event Sales for American Baby Magazine, a division of Meredith Corporation, Gina extended brand awareness of top print advertisers in the baby category by engaging new and expectant families with integrated live experiences which reflected this important life stage change.

This then led to a position as VP of Events at Working Mother Media, offering thought leadership experiences on diversity/inclusion and work life balance to Fortune 100 companies in their recruitment and retention of diverse top talent. Gina consulted with these corporations who made diversity a business imperative in an effort to grow within an ever increasing global market. Gina traveled across the country sharing diversity best practices in leadership training and work/life balance workshops for mid to senior level executives’ eager to grow in their professions and become vested members within their companies. As an African American woman, Gina was also inspired and encouraged to leverage this development to grow professionally amidst a dominant culture that did not reflect the diverse nature in many of her communities.

Gina chose an independent school education for her children because of the privileges these ivy institutions offer in expanding the young mind with the rigors of academics, a curriculum rich in the arts, the challenge to become critical thinkers, the attention spent on developing character, and the opportunity matriculate with other students who share the same goals to attend the best institutions for higher learning. Gina and her family love the privileges that come with an independent school education and work hard to balance this privilege with the realities of the cost of such a privilege. Although, Gina did not attend private schools she found familiarity through her tenure in the corporate world and was able to reflect on the business case that corporations make for diversity when it comes to the bottom line. Valued employees stay – Retention. They become ambassadors tapping into diverse top talent – Recruitment.

After experiencing universal attrition of families of color at private schools, Gina had a vision to implement similar corporate strategies around diversity and inclusion for well-balanced retention in our schools. These strategies include academic and social workshops, counseling initiatives, academic, social, cultural and financial resources, research, social networking, and best practices for support/affinity groups, alumni mentors programs, and recruitment events. Reciprocally, well-balanced retention can have a huge positive impact on the recruitment of great families of color to private schools, making it an even more privileged environment for the entire school community.

Gina is passionate about giving families at independent schools what they need to have well-balanced retention by providing live events and a virtual platform that has become a one stop shop for resources and research valuing and encouraging families to become active members of their school communities. While at the same time, RIISE offers schools programming and support that furthers their accomplishments around diversity and inclusion.

Gina’s ultimate joys are spending quality time with family which includes occasionally beating her husband Keith in a spirited game of backgammon and taking notice each and every day of the new ways in which her children are growing in, and experiencing the world. She loves jazz music, international films and lazy days in the Vineyard. Gina also acknowledges that she is a full expression of God’s divine love and works diligently to reflect that love in her life.

Gina blogs here on the RIISE website.


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When Other Adults Supervise Your Children…

by Mark Benerofe on March 8, 2010

Mark BenerofeOne of the greatest challenges parents face is managing situations where they will place their children under the care of other adults. This challenge starts with baby nurses, pediatricians, nannies, and childcare; and continues throughout a child’s life with school, sports programs, summer camps, and other activities.

In my experience as a coach and camp director, I see parents struggle to find the proper athletic experiences for their child. This process has become more complicated in recent years with the increased prevalence of travel teams and AAU teams. Much parental anxiety stems from concerns regarding the extent to which different programs emphasize competition and winning. A complicating factor may be that a child may want to play in a program that has a different philosophy from what a parent wants.

To parents struggling with decisions about which athletic programs to choose and how to manage the experiences they’ve chosen, I would offer the following suggestions and observations:

1. Try to understand and accept your child’s nature.

If your child constantly seeks challenges, and is driven to compete ardently, he probably will not be fulfilled by a program that doesn’t give him the opportunity to experience his competitive nature. He is probably better suited to a more intense athletic environment. Some kids are more aggressive than others. One of the great attributes of sports, is that it provides a forum for children (and adults) to healthfully channel their aggression. Similarly, some children are intimidated by competitive sports. This can be frustrating to parents, especially those that love sports themselves. These children may thrive in athletic environments that don’t emphasize performance, but focus on participation and fun. Whether you would prefer your child to be more competitive or less competitive, avoid the temptation to impose your competitive preferences on your child’s athletic experience. Allow him to experience sports in a way that he finds comfortable and enjoyable.

2. Be patient.

It may be a cliché, but it’s one we often lose sight of – children develop at different rates. The most famous example would be Michael Jordan being cut from his high school basketball team as a sophomore. Too often, children are labled “unathletic” at far too young an age. Conversely, children that excel early on may experience difficulty when their peers catch up to or surpass them. Try-outs and cuts can discourage “late-bloomers” from participating in sports, depriving them of potentially great experiences and depriving the sports world from their potentially great contributions. If your child does get “cut,” from a particular team, find an alternative low-pressure way for him to enjoy that sport. Don’t let a difficult early experience turn him off to a sport unnecessarily.

3. Nothing’s perfect, focus on what matters most to your family.

There are many factors that go into picking a sports program for your kids. Among these are price, schedule/convenience, location, quality of instruction, level of competition, and program philosophy. It is unlikely that you will find an organization that meets all your criteria perfectly. So decide what’s most important to you and choose accordingly.

4. Kids can have great learning experiences even with “less-than-great” coaches.

As a child, I was blessed with some great coaches, and stuck with some stinkers. Luckily, I thoroughly enjoyed every meaningful athletic endeavor I undertook, and learned from all of them. As parents, we tend to get overly concerned about lousy coaches. I don’t mean unsafe or cruel coaches (you cannot be too concerned about such people) – but plain old lousy coaches. Such coaches can be manipulative or dismissive, play favorites, and be poor technicians or strategists. Yet kids can still have a great time, improve their abilities, and learn. They can learn how to deal with manipulative, dismissive, poorly trained people who play favorites. Coaches aren’t the only ones. So learning how to thrive in a particular circumstance, despite a lousy coach is an important skill. This brings me to another cliché – you can’t prepare life for your children, so you better prepare your children for life. Your kids aren’t always going to be supervised by the “best and brightest.” But you can help them deal with the “less-than-great” coaches.

5. SPORTS ARE FUN!!

At Camp Winadu, our motto is “Building Character Through Sports.” We believe that sports are among the most powerful teaching tools for reaching young people. The reason is simple – SPORTS ARE FUN. When sports are no longer fun for kids – because adults create too stressful an environment – not only do kids lose the chance to have a great time, but we, as adults, lose some of our best opportunities to teach important values. Unfortunately, we have to remind ourselves, kids play sports to HAVE FUN!

As parents, we grew up in a “simpler” time for youth athletics. It was easy for us to develop our enjoyment of sports before facing the pressures of organized competition. Our kids confront these pressures at an earlier age than we did. They can still have even better experiences than we may have had, but it will take a little extra thought and effort on our part. I hope the ideas in this post will help you help your children have the best possible experience with sports.

About the Contributor: Mark Benerofe, Director of Camp Winadu and President of the CampGroup Family of Camps, is a regular blog contributor to the NYC Private Schools Blog in the areas of outdoor education and children’s development through athletics.


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Mark Benerofe Joins NYC Private Schools Blog as a Contributor

March 4, 2010

We are excited to announce that Mark B. Benerofe, Director of Camp Winadu and President of the CampGroup Family of Camps, will join us as a regular blog contributor in the areas of outdoor education and children’s development through athletics.
Shortly after graduating Cornell University with a Bachelor of Arts Degree, Mark served as a social [...]

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Rejection Blues for NYC Private School Families

March 3, 2010

Now that the NYC private school acceptance and rejection letters have been mailed out, some parents are thrilled and relieved and some are sorely disappointed. The children may not know or care what school they’ll be attending, but they are also feeling the effects of their success or failure to get into [...]

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When Technology Reeks Havoc on Homework

February 22, 2010

I was sitting at a coffee shop the other day, happily drinking my latte and looking forward to some quiet time with my book. It was at about 3:30, just after school got out and students with overflowing backpacks were starting to file in to get some work done before dinner. In the [...]

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The Proactive, Purposeful, Power of Empathy: Preventing Chaos

February 14, 2010

In my last blog, I discussed a new approach to dealing with difficult behaviors in children called Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) developed by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.
The CPS motto is that “children do well when they can” a deceptively simple idea that can be very hard to swallow when you and your child [...]

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The Gender Gap-Revisited

February 13, 2010

In the past when the “Gender Gap” was discussed it usually pertained to the discrepancy between boys’ and girls’ achievement – with girls not doing as well academically. However, all that has changed and the main concern now is that boys (in all socio-economic levels) are in trouble and falling behind in their achievement test [...]

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February’s Little Glimmer of Hope for High School Students

February 9, 2010

There is a small window of opportunity that opens for a couple weeks each February for 8th grade students that find that they need to transfer from private school to public high school programs in NYC. The public high school choice process happens in the early fall and it is tremendously difficult to gain a [...]

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Preschool Admissions for Twins in Brooklyn

January 31, 2010

I have heard all kinds of urban folklore about the difficulty of finding school seats for NYC twins. I have heard that a family of twins needs to apply to 10 to 12 preschool programs to gain entry. I just couldn’t reconcile that number with what I know about Brooklyn admissions. We all know that [...]

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Making Sense of the Chaos: Identifying Triggers for your “Challenging” Child

January 27, 2010

If you are the parent of a child who has behavioral difficulties, you have likely been told on many occasions to set up a sticker or star chart to reward your child for good behavior. Behavioral reward charts that reinforce your child’s positive behaviors are an important and well-researched way of dealing with disciplinary [...]

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