NYC Prep schools have come under a lot of scrutiny since their world is set to be displayed for all to see on both reality shows and fictional shows alike. The fictionalization of High School is nothing new and many parents remember watching shows like Beverly Hills 90210 and wondering why their school wasn’t like that. The simple fact is that, reality or fiction, you have a say in what happens in your child’s school and life. The hitch is that you need to be a part of that life in order to really see what is happening in it.
Very few of the parents discussing televised shows having to do with High School kids are recognizing or liking what they see. It is easy to say “My child’s school isn’t like that. My child would never act like that or do those things.” In reality, unless you are very involved in your child’s life at school and after, you quite likely don’t know what is really going on.
One of the simplest ways to help ensure that you know who your child is and what kind of environment they’re involved in is to be involved.
Be involved in your child’s school and extracurricular activities.
While the days of being the “room parent” are over at the High School level, this doesn’t mean you can’t be at the school and helping. You don’t have to attend every school play rehearsal, but volunteering to help, even if it’s only a few times, will make a big difference. You will be able to see your child in the school environment and interacting with friends and teaching staff. This is a view you won’t be able to get anywhere else, and it will cue you into the social workings of your child and his or her friends. If your child plays a sport, don’t just sit on the sidelines. Offer to help the team out and after the big game get together or assist them in organizing a fundraiser.
Life doesn’t always have to follow art, and if you want your child to be a part of something greater than the drama-of-the-week, you need to be involved with their lives.